Yes I don’t know why I still feel this way when I’m a full grown adult

Happened to me when I was in uni. We had a peer review process where the groups members who did the work all rated the people who didnt with really low marks (talking like 2/60). If you don’t have that, I’d recommend talking to your lecturer about it

BRO ME TOOOOOO. My eyes felt like they were closing at work

When you said ‘I think I could have done more’, I could totally relate - I’m trying to look for PhD funding right now so I look back at my undergrad and seriously wish I had tried harder. But I think it’s about understanding that we did what we could with the knowledge, capacity and other competing desires we had at the time, and being kind to ourselves about it. An age related milestone is always a mix of polarising emotions but I’ve tried to face it with ‘grace and gratitude’ 😌

Omg hahah I can totally relate to this - I’m generally a pretty shy person and it’s idiotic guys like this that make it even harder for me to speak up because I’m afraid they’ll cut in or something

You should never settle for a relationship, I think you’ve made a wise decision to end things for now and am so proud of you for doing that! xx (and never feel guilty doing what’s right for you!)

Ooh this is such a good idea! Love your resolutions :)) mine are: - to cook a new recipe at least once a week - to read at least 10 fiction books (I’ve always read predominantly non-fiction) - to practice yoga at least twice a week - to start a PhD - to make the time to take myself on a solo-cafe date every other week

Ahhh I’ve done this more times than I’d like to admit… 🥲

This was such an interesting take. I've found that 80% of grads aren't really happy with what they're doing after university so you're definitely not alone. I often dreamed about the 'real world' and work life, how I would be able to clock out at 5 instead of working through the night but that wasn't the case at all, I'm probably more busy now than I've ever been - or at least, lazier, and therefore doing much less. The only thing I'm thankful for is actually enjoying my job while everyone around me either hates theirs or is at least planning on leaving because they're not as fulfilled. How are you finding yours?

Context was completely necessary so here’s the backstory to what I’m about to say - In a very similar fashion, my best friend from First year of uni was someone who went to the same high school as me we are both from the same small island that was 14 hours away by flight. We did everything together we lived in the same halls we would have lunch together every day we would study together and only when we went to bed were we ever really apart. A lot of our friends thought we were dating, because what straight boy and girl could be best friends right? Well we could, and since then I have not really found a male best friend who I spent day in and day out with in the same way, until very recently. We fell out in second year after year he was consistently dating this girl who was extremely toxic for a cat I tried to help him time and time again but sometimes you just can’t get through to that. We decided that it was too hard to be friends one because I couldn’t deal with having my friend be upset all of the time and to because he couldn’t deal with a friend who hated his girlfriend and a girl friend who hated his best friend and every day I think about the friendship I lost. And yet I don’t reach out. We are now in really different stages of our lives - he is still in university while I have gone onto working and even though I really miss the kind of friendship that we had because I cannot find it anywhere else (the kind of looks we used to give each other and instantly understand what we were thinking; the kind of banter that we would have; the kind of support that we would give each other), there is always something holding me back. So yes, I think it is completely normal to mourn a friendship that you don’t try to get back. I think it is similar to having an ex that you might still deep, deep, deep down care for yet know is completely wrong for you. Friendship is a two way street and as much as I wish we could just force people into caring about us as much as we care about them, I hope that we can learn to value ourselves as much as we value their friendship.

This was so poetic. Besides the fact that I absolutely cannot relate to being amongst a group of people (still in lockdown on the other side of the world), I can’t wait to feel a sense of acceptance for what was and what is. And I’m so glad you have. You deserve the absolute world.

You had me at binge eating and kept me through “about the guy I was seeing for 8 months before I found out he had a girlfriend” (big yikes btw. Fuck him) and beyond. I loved every sentence of this.

When Bridgerton prepares you more for life than uni ever will 🥲