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Marcelina
Jun 07, 2022
In The best stories in my 20s
Now if you were in London on Monday you might have experienced the effects of the strike. Well, I did. I got to Victoria thinking it's not going to be that bad. It was bad the actual underground station was closed. This meant I had to walk to university which took me 50 mins. The walk itself was fine. However, what was not fine was the too small shoes I was wearing (I had to borrow my mum's), the spilt coffee and the bird poo on my white shirt. Now for some reason, I decided to walk again today. However, this time round my bad luck started on the train to London, when the zipper of my backpack broke and I had to quickly find a shop to buy a new bag. I was able to find a bag and only spend £5 (a miracle in London). After this, I started my commute to University. 10 minutes before I got there I spilt coffee on my white t-shirt right in the middle. This was not a small drop which could be ignored. No, this was a massive stain and I really liked my outfit today.
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Marcelina
May 19, 2022
In Dating in my 20s
So in April 2022, I bought tickets to see Gracie in London. Now, in April I was trying to be a boss babe and live with the motto I don't need no man... I can take myself on a date. Well fast forward to yesterday I am fighting an anxiety attack in the line to the concert. When I got into the venue I had to have a quick drink to calm my nerves (I know not the healthiest solution). But at the end I had fun. So take yourself on the date to a coffee shop or the park. I think enjoying being alone is so important and helps when you get into a relationship because you know that if the other person is not there that you will be ok.
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Marcelina
May 13, 2022
In Mental health in my 20s
As the mental health week comes to then end and the exam season starts. I want to remind you all to take a break once in a while. Go out for that drink with your friends (not like every day) but once a week won't kill you (or it might I don't know). Take it from someone who got so stressed out with university that their period was late nearly 3 weeks. Here is my list of how to organise your life while being stressed: - make a list - snacks - coffee - take a walk outside - go and study outside your house and the library (I find it can be stressful being surrounded by people who are also stressing) - if you find that you need more help contact your GP to see if they can advise something (asking for help will not make you weak)
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Marcelina
May 01, 2022
In Feelings in my 20s
So my birthday is in 2 weeks and all the plans I have been trying to make are falling through. I never particularly liked my birthday because it seemed more like a chore knowing that I will have to socialize with people when I would rather be left alone. I also don't like it because I know people are not going to put the same amount of thought behind my birthday as I do there's e.g. decorating, buying gifts and all of that (this is mostly aimed at my family). You know what's funny I have bought my own gift from my parents myself for the past 10 years, they give me the card and a limit and that's it. Like, come on put a bit of effort into this. So yeah....We love birthdays
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Marcelina
Apr 27, 2022
In I'm a woman in my 20s
I have never had sex. I am 21 (22 in May) and all my Os have been done by me. But I am not 100% if I actually had an O yet? Everyone describes the experiences differently. In the books, I read authors describe it as an earth-shattering, out of body experience while my friends laugh saying her BF has never made her O? (To be honest with her I believe her because I saw a Tiktok and all the men in that video could not show on the diagram where the clitoris was). I think I won't know if I have had the O a till I have sex...God knows when that will happen
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Marcelina
Apr 21, 2022
In I'm a woman in my 20s
Guess who broke their car today??? Me. Now the situation was very stressful. I was reversing back into my driveway and when I tried to put the car in the reverse the whole shift box (or in the words of London Tipton the PRNDL) broke. Now I am stuck on a small hill, blocking the road, and there is a car in front of me. Now on my left, my next-door neighbour wants to leave the road but she can't because I am blocking it. I call my mum who tells me that I need to push the car into the driveway (Yeah I gathered that much) and to get my other neighbours to help push the car. We got the car into the driveway. But this was one of the worst experiences of my life because I was driving the car the whole day pretty much and for most of it, my brother was with me. This was me today trying to explain what broke to my parents and I did not know the name of it
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Marcelina
Mar 06, 2022
In Mental health in my 20s
Does anyone feel like you have to be careful around their parents? Like what you say and the type of tone you use or how quickly you answer when they call you? Today I needed something from the summer house and I could not find the keys. I waited 30 minutes today to ask him about these keys because he was in a bad mood and I did not want to get shouted at for not knowing where they were myself. Another example is hearing my mum put her coffee mug to loudly on to a table because she is annoyed. How paranoid do you have to be to know the differences between normal sound of a cup being put down and when some if mad? Some days I don’t want to come back home because I want to avoid the negative atmosphere and when I can I leave the house. Just so I don’t have to be there. I love my parents with all my heart and I am very grateful for them. But sometimes I wish I didn’t have to stress about these stupid things
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Marcelina
Feb 28, 2022
In Thoughts in my 20s
As I am typing this it is 11:58PM. I have been up since 7am doing university work. Tomorrow I have to present a case study to my class. However, only me and another person did the work. I have repeatedly asked the other three people if they have done anything but they do not answer my messages. Now here is where I need advice. Would it be an asshole move to say that they did not do any work? This is not the first time they have done something like this. I just don't think it is fair on me and the other person to do the whole case study and the other three to get the credit. Any idea what I should do?
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Marcelina
Feb 11, 2022
In Feelings in my 20s
When I turned 20 we were at the begging of the pandemic. I feel like the first few years of my 20s have been taken away from me. But now that we are learning to live with Covid and are new normal my 20s are still being wasted away but this time by me. As I am writing this I am sitting in my living room drinking a hot chocolate, watching a movie and painting my nails. I feel like I should be out in a club or with my friends, I should be going on dates with random men I meet on dating apps, I should be making the most of what some call the best years of my life. But instead, I am doing nothing. The worst part of it all is that I don't mind. I am surpassingly happy. But at the same time, I feel like sometimes I am wasting my 20s away. That one day in 10 years time I am going to wake up and regret not going out drinking with my friends
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Marcelina
Feb 01, 2022
In Hustling in my 20s
Sometimes I feel like I am doing so many different things. Just so I can't stop to think. The moment I start thinking I feel sad... If I let my brain relax it goes into overdrive with worry. That's why I hate the nighttime; it gives my brain the time to think. Every day I have to exhaust myself to make sure I fall asleep because I know that if I don't I will be up an till the early hours of the day thinking, worrying and crying. It's like this ruthless cycle, that I don't know how to break.
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Marcelina
Feb 01, 2022
In Mental health in my 20s
Today I felt really tired. Like the world took every ounce of energy away from me
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Marcelina
Jan 25, 2022
In Feelings in my 20s
I am generally a healthy person, I don’t have major responsibilities in my life, I don’t have a job or a hard life. But today, I had an emotional break-down. I sat there for two hours crying. After, I was done I felt guilty because of all the things I have outlined above. There are people out there that have it way worse than me. I am privileged. But why in those two hours I felt like my whole world was breaking down? Why was I crying over something so stupid that in the bigger picture is irrelevant? Now I know that I can still feel shit about my day even those I have these privileges and advantages, but I still felt guilty.
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Marcelina
Jan 20, 2022
In Feelings in my 20s
In September 2021, I started my masters in Marketing after I completely flopped in my undergraduate degree (I got a good enough grade to get into my masters). I remember in May last year I had a mental breakdown because I wanted a break. I was tired, depressed, and overall just tired. Shocker nothing really changed since then, in my opinion, it got worse. So fast forward to now, I am starting my second semester and I still don’t know if I just wasted £10,000. I feel like I am not learning any useful skills just the theory behind marketing, I have made no friends because everyone is either male or older than me, I don’t know if I picked the right University for me and I just feel sh*t. Since September it has just been go go go. I have not had a moment to take a break and breath. Now I am even questioning if I even want to do marketing. I think I am just going to marry a rich man and be a housewife. Does anyone else feel like this? Ps. This is me everyday
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Marcelina
Jan 17, 2022
In Hustling in my 20s
SOS I need help. Everyone always says that networking can give you amazing opportunities but they never tell you how to network. I want to send out a message to someone on LinkedIn but I am worried that they might think I am being rude, or they will ignore me. But at the same time what happens if they do answer what then? Do I ask them more questions? Do I keep in contact? I have found some templates on the structure of the message on TikTok (I know) and Google but I don't want the person to think that I simply copied and pasted the message. Help a girl out with some ideas and suggestions. Lots of Love, M
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Marcelina
Jan 17, 2022
In Hustling in my 20s
I like to think we all have at least one toxic trait that makes our lives hard for no reason. My one is the inability to start doing anything with a deadline till the possible last minute. Will I finish the project that is due? yes. Will it cost me my sleep, health, and sanity? Also, yes. Am I going to do anything differently when it comes to the next project? Nope. At this point I have tried everything: blocking a website, reward system, turning my phone off, turning my phone off and putting it in a different room, studying in a coffee shop, studying at the library, studying in the morning or at night. Nothing helps. No matter what I do I will always start at the last minute. The funny thing is that I know that if I start the work even a week earlier it will be less stressful. But I chose not to do it. I always tell myself “I have time” When I was studying for my GCSE and A-levels, I did not have this issue. It all started when I joined university. I think the issue is that I have no structure in my life. I kind of take every day as it goes (not the best idea). I only go to university 2 days a week and then for the rest I am free to do anything I want. It is my choice if I want to study or not and if there is anything that I hate is choice. If anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated xxx
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Marcelina
Jan 12, 2022
In I'm a woman in my 20s
In my previous university, I was studying a subject where the majority of the class was made up of women. There were maybe 15 men in a class of 200. However, since starting my masters I am one of maybe 4 women (to be honest I have not seen everyone in my class because people don’t turn up to in-person classes). But the majority of the class are men. Here is something I noticed, my male classmates always talk over the professor or other students especially female students it doesn’t matter if it is a class online or in person, they are always talking over them, and it is not in a quiet voice. Oh no, they will speak out loud. It can be so irritating because I can't hear the professor and when I want to speak up in class there is always the chance of one of them speaking over me. Obviously, online classes are always a bit of a mess because no one really knows what they are doing but when you have someone interrupt every minute to say something that is not relevant it gets to the point where I just exit the class because I am not learning anything. An example of this happened today. In our consultancy class, we were discussing the work we were doing in the seminar. One of the guys interrupted the professor and started to just talk over him. This would not be an issue if he raised his virtual hand (Microsoft teams) and then when the professor let him talk, he would talk. But no, he needed the answer now and this led to others doing the same thing. This also happens when another student is talking. I could be in the middle of my sentence and they will start talking over me. Did they not teach them that it is rude to talk over people? I was thinking of sending out an email to my classmates (I am the class rep, so I am allowed to do that) and asking them to not talk in lectures because it is distracting others. I know that I am not the only person who finds this annoying. But am I being dramatic over this whole situation???
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Marcelina
Jan 09, 2022
In Thoughts in my 20s
I have been taking driving lessons for the past 2 years (I am not a bad driver but whenever I start them we go into lockdown). Well in November I failed my driving test within the first 10 minutes. Since then I have been driving my car as a learner with my parents. This is probably the most stressful thing that I have to do. The reason for this is that my parents do not trust me behind the wheel and how do I know that well here is a small list: - They always have their hand on the hand brake because apparently, I don't know how to brake - They will point out all the speed limits, even though I can CLEARLY see them. Normally I am going under the speed limit - They will point out everything and their reasoning for that is "it lessens their stress" what about my stress as a driver? But if there is one thing that drives me madder than the points I made above is the other drivers driving too close to me. The first thing you are taught is that if you CAN NOT SEE THE WHEELS OF THE OTHER CAR YOU ARE TOO CLOSE. Apparently, these lessons go out of someone head when they see a learner driver because they will be right by my car and as a result that gives me a ridiculous amount of anxiety. To being with I hated driving. I didn't even want to do the lessons but my parents insisted, this hatred towards driving started when I was in year 12 and we had to go to an event called "License to kill" where they made us watch a film about a guy causing a car accident that killed all of his friends and even had speakers come in and talk to us. I think what made this whole even more traumatic for all of us is that a guy from our class was in an accident not even a week later and nearly lost his life. I don't think driving is for everyone and I am one of these people.
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Marcelina
Jan 01, 2022
In The best stories in my 20s
This isn't some inspirational story. This is a story of a mistake I made today at 3 am. So the time is 3 am and I had a dream where I tested positive for COVID-19. Do you know those dreams that are just super realistic? Yeah, this was one of them. In my half-awake state, I started to sniff things around me (Because people often lose their sense of taste and smell) but I could not smell anything (probably because I was sniffing my own things and I am used to the smell). I was searching frantically for things to sniff around my room and that was when I came upon my nail varnish remover (I hope you see where I am going with this story). So as the last result I sniffed the nail varnish remover. I can tell you three things. 1. I don't have covid, 2. My nose still hurts, and 3. I was wide awake within seconds. So the moral of this story is if you think you lost your sense of smell sniff something that smells very strong. Maybe not nail varnish remover.
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Marcelina
Jan 01, 2022
In Thoughts in my 20s
HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳 Can you believe that we made it to 2022? I hope everyone had a lovely evening no matter what you did. If anyone is interested I spent my new years eve with my younger brother, we had homemade pizza and pikolo (Polish sparkling juice) because I don’t really drink alcohol and my brother is 15. I think we all made new year resolutions at least once in our lives. I know that I have. But I never really stick to them. I usually lose interest in them within a month. Which according to some articles is very normal. This year however I want to stick to them. Normally I would simply think of these goals and keep them to myself, which normally resulted in me not sticking to them. So to keep myself accountable I am going to share them with everyone. Exercise 3/4 times a week Read 200 books Read 2 non-fiction books per month Graduate university with a Merit Get my driving license Go on a date 😉 Get a job in marketing or PR Be happy Start an Instagram page about Marketing trends to use as a portfolio Learn to photoshop Start doing a 5-minute journal Be more money-conscious (Spend less) So here is my list of new year resolutions. The minimum is to stick to at least 75% of the list. I feel like this image is me every year 😂
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Marcelina
Dec 28, 2021
In Feelings in my 20s
I always think that people judge me for being a picky eater or it is inconvenient for them. I mean the number of times my mum told me I was being dramatic over not wanting to eat a meal because of the ingredients that were in it is ridiculous. But over time it has become more than me simply not liking certain foods; it has become psychological. I have this fear of buying/trying new things because what if I don’t like them? or what if I get sick from it? This has stopped me from trying so many foods from around the world and sticking to my ‘safe foods’. It has gotten to the point where I become obsessed with a meal, and I will have it every single day for a month. Here are some examples: Feta and tomato oven-baked pasts, oats, crumpets, and mac and cheese. My current obsession is waffles. I will make fresh waffles every day or every other day. I have tried to break this pattern, but it gives me so much anxiety that it is easier to continue doing it. Anyone out there who has a similar problem?
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